Written by: Rick Staggenborg, MD on Oct 28, 2009 6:07 AM PDT
However, if the parents in such a family originate in dysfunctional families, the parts each family member plays may become a grotesque parody of what may have been much richer lives, had someone seen the problems brought to the family by the parents and intervened. Learning new parts to play in the family dance frees us to be all that we can be. The alternative is to accept the roles cast for us by our parents, particularly those of us with authoritative parents, leaving us to function as no more than meat puppets.
Children of permissive parents are often not free of acting independently of parental expectations because their actions are dictated by their need to rebel against the lack of structure in their lives. The actions of the children of authoritarians are even more dictated by dysfunctional parental beliefs because they have often never challenged those beliefs. These are the young men and women in the military who have not freed themselves from the yoke of submitting to the dictates of parents who teach them to jump when the President says so.
Our children thus become cannon fodder for an uncaring government and the Puppetmmasters who control our Congress. They should be protected by the Senate, which is supposed to be a check on Presidential ambition and power. Instead, Congress has abdicated its responsibility for the sake of Party unanimity and political power, marching off to war at the command of the international corporate terrorists who profit from war at the cost of our children's blood. This lockstep mentality is currently as evident in the historically fractionated Democratic Party leadership as it has always been in the Republican Party.
A case in point is the Bush family, which has clearly followed in the footsteps of George W’s grandfather, who was convicted of aiding the Nazis by violating restrictions on trade imposed by Roosevelt. I have not studied the life of George H.W. enough to conclude with authority the roots of W’s pathology, but his conduct throughout his life suggests that his father was overly permissive in general, perhaps in response to the shame he had for his own father, and the common attitude that “I will never be like him.”
Despite what may have been a permissive child rearing style in general, he is likely to have been authoritarian in respect to instilling a belief in young W that the economic aristocracy has the inherent right and the privilege of determining the fate of ordinary Americans. He certainly acted with authoritarian arrogance as the alleged "leader" of the "free world."
W is known to have been a lazy student with little sense of personal responsibility and he appears to have rebelled against his father by becoming the model authoritarian, despite his evident utter inability to reason independently, as required of the true leader. This was clearly recognized by the kingmakers who choose who to throw money at for expensive propaganda campaigns on behalf of their chosen corporate tools.
I was raised by a third-Generation German-American who was raised in turn by an embittered, violent man. My grandfather mellowed in later years because of the enduring love of my father and the eventual recognition of his lack of authority over his very strong son. My grandfather was raised by a vicious disciplinarian whose father presumably was raised by German parents who never understood the traditional German value of love and respect for the autonomy of the individual.
Many Germans forgot this as well when the Allied powers took advantage of Germany’s weakness after their defeat in WWI. The Treaty of Versailles punished them collectively for allowing their society to have become authoritarian and submitting to the Imperialistic designs of their leaders. These were men who had become arrogant in the success of their recently unified nation. and asserted their claim to a larger piece of the international corporate pie.
The German people and society had been made intelligent by the eternal war between the principalities which formerly comprised what is now known as Germany. As I have explained, in a previous essay in this book, warfare breeds intelligence because soldiers live or die by their wits when pitted against each other in mortal combat.